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If you have already done New Year solveyour self-improvement plan will likely start sometime on January 1, when the Hangover As time passes, the pursuit of the “new you” begins in earnest.
But if Research Any sign of changing habits, only about halfway through the new year resolution It’s likely to end in January, let alone last a lifetime.
As an expert on positivity psychology and literature, we recommend an unconventional but more promising approach.
We call it “old year” solve“.
It combines the psychologist and America’s first self-improvement guru, benjamin franklinhe pioneered a model of habit change that was far ahead of its time.
With an “Old New Year” approach, maybe you can sidestep the inevitable challenges that come with a traditional New Year resolution and achieve lasting, positive change.
a period of practice and failure
Research Two potential pitfalls of New Year’s resolutions are highlighted.
First, if you lack the confidence to commit fully, failing to achieve your goals can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Additionally, if you maintain change but feel that progress is unacceptably slow or inadequate, you may abandon the effort.
Old year resolutions are different. You don’t have to wait until January to start trying to change your life, but do a preview before the new year begins.
How does this work?
First, identify the changes you want to make in your life. Do you want to eat better? Move more? Save more? Now, with just a few days until January 1st, start living according to your commitments. Track your progress. You may stumble from time to time, but here’s the thing: you’re just practicing.
If you’ve ever rehearsed a play or played scrimmage, you’ve used this low-risk practice to prepare yourself for the real game. These experiences give us permission to fail.
Psychologist Carol Dweck and her colleagues have shown that when people see failure as a natural consequence of trying to achieve a challenging goal, they are more likely to persist in achieving it.
However, failure can lead to surrender if people view failure as a clear sign that they are not capable or even worthy of success.
If you’re convinced that you can’t achieve your goals, you can develop a condition of “learned helplessness,” which means you may give up trying altogether.
Many of us unintentionally set failed goals for our New Year’s resolutions. On January 1, we began a new way of life and, as expected, we slipped, fell, slipped again, and ultimately never got back up.
Last year’s resolution took the pressure off. It allows you to fail and even learn from your failures. You slowly build confidence and the failures become less important because they all happen before the official “start date” of the resolution.
Gardener weeds one bed at a time
Long before Franklin became one of America’s greatest success stories, he invented a method that helped him overcome life’s inevitable failures and can help you master last year’s resolutions.
While still a young man, Franklin proposed what he called “a bold and arduous plan for the attainment of moral perfection.” With charming confidence, he came to master the 13 virtues of temperance, frugality, chastity, industry, order and humility.
In a typically Franklin move, he employed strategies in his efforts, focusing on one virtue at a time. He likened this approach to that of a gardener, “who does not try to eradicate all the bad herbs at once, which is beyond his reach and strength, but works one bed at a time.”
Franklin described the project in detail in his autobiography, but he did not say that he tied his project to the new year. He also didn’t give up when he slipped once or more than once.
Franklin wrote: “I was surprised to find that I had many more faults than I imagined; but I was glad to see them diminished.”
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Mark Canada is president and professor of English at Indiana University, and Christina Downey is professor of psychology, both at Indiana University. This article is reproduced from dialogue Licensed under Creative Commons. read Original article.
He showcased his progress and documented his missteps in a book. One page – perhaps just a hypothetical example – shows 16 of them related to “Prohibition” over the course of a week. (We recommend not labeling mistakes but instead documenting successes, following the work of habit expert BJ Fogg, whose research shows celebrating wins helps drive habit change.)
Repeated failures may cause someone to give up trying altogether. But Franklin persisted for many years. For Franklin, it’s all about perspective: The effort to get better is a “project,” and projects take time.
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“A better, happier person”
Years later, Franklin admitted that despite his best efforts, he was never perfect. However, his final assessment is worth remembering:
“But, by and large, although I have never achieved the perfection that I so ambitiously wanted to achieve, and am far from it, by effort I have become a better and happier person than I would have been if I had not tried.”
For Franklin, it works to think of self-improvement as a project with no strict time frame. In fact, his plans may have helped him achieve great success in business, science, and politics. Importantly, he also found great personal satisfaction in this endeavor: “This little trick, with God’s blessing,” he wrote, was “the key to his happiness throughout his life, until he wrote this at the age of 79.”
If you start on your own schedule—now, within the past year—and view self-improvement as an ongoing “project” rather than a goal with a start date, you can enjoy the same success that Franklin experienced.
It might also be helpful to remember what Franklin wrote to himself about a virtue he coincidentally called “determination”: “Resolve to do what you ought to do; to do without fail what you resolve to do.”