For years, Jenny* thought that it was strange how his former-partner always looked at the front gate of his house when someone came to meet him.
She was free from the derogatory relationship, but she managed to be present in whatever she was going, or who she was meeting.
Live in a small village, and he is still living close, she understood People Bump into each other – but almost every day?
“I went mad,” he said. “Whenever people come to meet me, he will be there, asking him that ‘you are seeing him’, ‘What are you doing’. I didn’t understand this, how can he know? Then, it suddenly clicked.”
For two years, Jenny was oblivious to the fact that she was not the only person using her email account.
With Access, there were former-partners who used the account he once shared Business She ran, she was doing to monitor every movement, and to sting and bother her.
He even sent it by sending it Email For others, often rude messages Family and friends.
The 62 -year -old said, “Every part of my life was under his control.” “I felt that I had left a controlled relationship, but if anything, he increased his passion in me, and I was unaware that he was doing it too.
“I only sent a test email to a friend and caught him, saying that I am going to escape. He went to the monkey exactly, and then I knew. It was terrible, realizing that I was under his supervision for years.”
East Couple 10 years were together.
She was unhappy at the loss of someone close to someone, and with attraction and politics, she quickly befriended her, soon she was going to her house before promising a new beginning with a joint opening of a business in a rural village.
But in a year, he was controlled on his family, friendship and finance – and in later years, the relationship became derogatory. After a decade, Jenny bravely ended the relationship, and forced his former-partner to go out.
However, he only went on a few streets – and forced behavior deteriorated.
Jenny said, “I started walking around the house.” “Booking book for business will disappear again. Things like Sosspan will be taken around. I thought I was going crazy, but it was breaking in my house. It was a classic gaslighting.
“It lasted for about a year, until I established CCTV – but he was still able to monitor everything. He reached the email that I used for work. He was able to know every movement I did, and he was everywhere. It was Sighting.”
Jenny said that he called the police on many occasions, but every time it will not happen. He even presented a diary with three years of proof, but said that there was no interest in the force.
Three years after the end of their relationship, she was able to sell business and home, and went to a secret place, leaving friends and family behind, and to start her life again, yet worried who was looking at her.
“I still have bad dreams,” Jenny said. “It was painful, and the effect stays with you. It’s not easy, coming to a new place, making friends. But it is what I have to do, I was completely disappointed by the police.”
Under the Sexious Crime Act 2015, controlled or forced behavior became a criminal offense, then amended four years ago, which included the victims, who did not live with the culprit, or who were former partners – significantly, Jenny, Jenny reported police misuse of police.
According to police data, 49,268 were crimes of crime Record The year ending March 2025 increased by forces in England and Wales to 44,538 from a year ago.
Nevertheless, someone is less likely to be accused by a report. A BBC investigation this year revealed When the Surrey police were reported to the Surrey police of tremendous behavior, someone was charged.
Jenny said: “Cases can be complicated and take time to solve, which is why I am afraid that they often do not get proper treatment. I want to see more resources to help deal with misbehavior.”
However, Jenny received some support. He received advice from an Ebrestwith University Project Choose the option, First dedicated service to older people suffering from domestic abuse.
The body recently released a guide to deal with the technical threat of criminals, and the organization is eager to highlight the plight suffering from the older victims of misconduct.
Rebecca Zark, co-Leide of Davis Choice Project, said: “As an online change of more services, the number of older people rely on family members or carers, to manage digital functions on their behalf.
“Without direct control over your online accounts, older adults can increase the risk of exploitation by their closest people.”
ACC Claire Bell, Deputy Director of the National Center for Vigilance Against Women and Girls and Public Protection, described forced and controlled behavior as a “insidious crime”, described the victims often stuck, isolated and weak, adding it.
He said that these “important” officials recognize the risks, and use professional curiosity to look beyond the immediate situation in front of them.
She was helping unit authorities identify events with training and react and provide domestic use risk evaluation tools.
He said: “We have progressed in such a way that the police should identify and respond to force or controlled behavior, which is reflected at the increase in the number of crimes registered across the country and the better charge rate, but we know that there is much more to do so.”
A home office spokesperson said that the government was committed to reducing violence against women and girls within a decade, and more than 80 percent of police forces in England and Wales had now taken specialist training to identify forced and controlled behavior.
He said: “Every victim of forced or controlled behavior is worthy of the police safe, supported and confident in reporting their experiences. No one should feel unsafe or fear that justice will not be done.
The police force investigating Jenny’s case said that its investigation was stopped due to the review of the evidence, it was found that there was no realistic possibility of punishment.
A spokesman for force, who Independent Jenny is not naming to protect the oblivion, said: “As a police force, we are committed to working towards domestic misconduct, chase and elimination of harassment.
“In this way, our authorities have investigated every report made by the complainant in this case, which provides tangible safety measures and advice throughout the process.”
Last year, participated with nationwide and refuge Independent On brick on brick, which One is made The second purpose-manufactured house for women escape from domestic misconduct.
National Domestic misconduct helpline 0808 2000 provides support for women on 247, or you can go asylum Website. Is a dedicated Men’s advice line 0808 8010 327 at 327
* The victim’s name has been changed to protect his identity